10 body language mistakes that reflect badly on your personality

Our personalities are a crucial aspect of ourselves, in fact, they often reveal a lot of things about us that are otherwise unspoken. And a major indicator about how we are, what is going on in our minds, and the way we carry ourselves in public is revealed through our body language. 

Unknowingly and unconsciously we end up giving out some of the other information about ourselves that can often put us in a spot. No matter how smart we are, well make these mistakes that reflect badly on our personality. Here are 10 body language mistakes that we need to easily avoid in conversations and interactions…   

1. Fidgeting during a conversation

While in a conversation, fidgeting with any object around you, like rolling the edge of your dupatta or playing with the keys or even shaking your legs while talking is a major body language mistake, for it sends out a message that either you are disinterested or nervous about the conversation. And that is a bad reflection of yourself. 

2. Crossing or folding hands or legs

During a conversation or at a public gathering, if your hands are folded or crossed it sends out a message that you are not someone who wants to interact. Crossed hands are also a sign of disinterest and can turn-off the person communicating with you. Cross legs are also a sign of danger. 

3. Spread out or open legs

This is a body language that, especially men need to avoid. Sitting with your legs open or spread out sends across a very cheap body language message. In fact, experts say that spreading out your legs open is an invitation to sex or sends across a very suggestive vibe about you. 

4. Leaning Back

Another body language mistake we tend to make is leaning back during a conversation. Especially when you are leaning back on a wall or drowning into your sofa’s cushion, it indicates that you probably don’t care about the conversation. Instead of leaning back, you should probably sit straight or lean in to show that you are interested. 

5. Slouching or hunched back

Sitting or standing with slouched or hunched back and shoulders is a big body language mistake. They indicate that you're not confident and unhappy. Certain studies suggest that people with clinical depression stick to this body language often. 

6. Nodding too many times

As a body language, nodding tells a lot about yourself. In a conversation if you constantly keep nodding, it is a sign of weakness, it shows that you are not confident enough to make a decision or you are indecisive which is why you agree with other's points of view. It is also a sign of indifference. 

7. Not making eye contact

Not looking in the eyes indicate that you are lying or being dishonest, it is also a sign of inconfidence. But eye-contacts as a body language can even bluff you. Also, you shouldn’t make too much of an eye-contact during a conversation as it comes across as a sign of arrogance and also make you look aggressive. 

8. Looking at a watch or phone while talking

Another very rude body language is to look at your phone or watch while talking because it shows that you are disinterested, not paying attention, and don’t care. And this can be very insulting for the person opposite you.  

9. Hands in the pocket or behind the back

Even though this a natural body language we take unconsciously while communicating, it indicates dishonesty or that you are hiding something. It also makes you come across as being very judgmental. 

10. Touching your face

Constantly touching your face especially the nose, mouth or neck unconsciously indicates that you are either confused or indecisive. It is also a sign of resistance which means that you do not agree with the opposite person’s point. It is also suggests that you are just listening rather than speaking which shows disinterest. 

Now that you know, what not to do in a conversation next time, start practicing this right away. 

Written by Nawaz Kochra